What is couples coaching? How is it different than traditional couples counseling?
Neurodiverse couples coaching is designed to provide you and/or your partner with tools and strategies to help navigate issues that arise in your relationship because of neurological differences between you and your partner.
Coaching requires you and your partner to work as a team to learn and practice new tools and strategies for communication, perspective taking, and emotional connection.
What happens in couples coaching sessions?
In our coaching sessions, I will listen for the areas in your relationship dynamic where you and your partner seem to be getting stuck, where the communication breaks down, and intimacy disintegrates in spite of best intentions.
Through a neurological understanding of the barriers to connection, I can teach you strategies to to reduce the defensiveness in your relationship and instead problem solve and work towards the common goals you and your partner share.
We can target areas for skill-building, so you and your partner can break old ineffective patterns of communication and start to relate to each other in a more productive and caring way.
You and/or your partner can have coaching sessions with me separately or together, or some combination, whichever you feel best fits your specific situation.
Sessions take place by phone or video conferencing on your computer, tablet, or smart phone.
Yes, you can do couples coaching AND attend coaching groups.
While participating in coaching sessions to learn new tools and strategies to improve your relationship, consider attending a Coaching Group to experience being with others who speak your language, who have been where you are and who get what you are going through.
"We are continually trying to incorporate all the things you have taught us. It's working!!! Thank you so very much!" - a partner on the spectrum
"I want to thank you for taking the time to coach us through communication techniques. It actually brought us closer together, and we were able to talk like the friends we used to be. I think we are establishing a trust that we were trying to work on things. I'm being more mindful of time spent per topic, asking specific questions, and checking in to ask if it's ok to keep talking or ok to change the subject." - a neurotypcal partner
"The code word was fantastic. Once I said it, she went and did the dishes, I went and meditated. If we had not used the code word, we would have had a fight." - a partner on the spectrum
"I thought that our session was fantastic! We have been in couples therapy for 21 years, even before we were married, and nothing has helped like our coaching session with you. I can't believe we accomplished so much in such a short amount of time." - a neurotypical partner
"Before our coaching I felt like we were walking blind in the forest. With you we were able to identify exactly what was happening and improve our communication as co-parents.” - a neurodiverse couple